Author: Tao Qing Hsu (Hsu, Tao-qing)
There are many ways to help
people. But, do you have found that some people are zealous to help other
people, however, it makes the zealous persons being tangled in the helped
peoples’ problem. And then, such problem would birth new problem to the zealous
persons. In other word, it is not only the problem of being helped people. It
has become the problems of both of them.
In my practical experience,
I have found that some people who ask for the help from outside are because
they are lack of wisdom to deal with their personal mental problem. In other
word, when they ask for people from outside to do things and help them, that is
not the master problem. What the master problem is their disorder in mental
activity. They are tangling and stocking in their negative emotion and
thinking. And that affect their relationship with their family and the methods
to handle things. They also have felt about their mental problem and attend the
mind course. What have shocked me is that such course almost is no helpful for
them. Their disorder in mental activity has still been there. Why? Because such
course does not touch the core of the true wisdom.
So, if we are zealous to
help people, we should not be blind. It is better for us to use our brain and
wisdom so as to avoid that we fall into the tangled problem and trouble. The
best helpfulness is to give those who ask for help the true wisdom. The second
helpfulness is to give them knowledge. When they have wisdom and knowledge,
they would be strong in heart and independent in life, and finally could find
the way, including knowledge and specialty, to improve their problem, including
the poverty.
If we understand such method
and have such ability to help people, we would not despise the un-learner.
